Goodbye to Absent Friends

Posted on October 16, 2014
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PG Holyfield and Thomas Peake

Last weekend I drove to Charlotte to attend the memorial service for the late great Patrick “PG” Holyfield. It was a nice time and I’m glad I went, as nice as it could be for an event I wish with all my heart didn’t exist. I saw friends and met Kimberly, PG’s “special lady friend” for the first time. I listened to the eulogies and sniffled. I played tickly banjo with Patrick McLean’s son and ate chips with pesto. Later I hanged out with the remaining friends and ate Vietnamese food and generally soaked in the presence of people I enjoy.

I freely admit that of everyone in that room, I had the loosest personal connection to PG. He was a guy I always liked, enjoyed talking to every time I saw him and never had a bad time in his presence. I know and could always have told you that my life would benefit from having more of him in it, but it didn’t and now it won’t. I drove to Charlotte primarily to say goodbye to a guy I wish I knew better and to support the people who helped him as he died. Goodbye, Patrick.

Right around the same time, we noted the sad occasion of five years since the passing of Thomas Peake. He died in 2009 while hiking in the Grand Canyon, just shy of his 40th birthday. After a several year hiatus, Chris Campbell and I began preparing new episodes of the Peakecast. We knew him from college radio and he left behind a lot of tapes of him doing that brilliantly, so we put those back out into the world. For all I see podcasters interested in gaining traction, I put a lot of time in a podcast primarily aimed at 50 to 100 people, his friends and family who want to hear a little more of him.

I miss both of these guys and wish like hell I could talk to them again. I wish I didn’t meet both of their significant others for the first time at their memorial services. I didn’t keep up with either as well as I should have. I will try going forward but I will fail. The next person I lose I will feel the same way. I am sorry if it is you. Give me a call sometime, okay?

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  1. Vivid Muse on October 16th, 2014 11:32 am

    You brought so much joy to Kim and PG’s, and as you saw, some were shy and lost in grief, but still very happy to see your face there. And this one thanks you for all your kindnesses, online and off.

    I absolutely LOVE this new project of yours. It’s so YOU. It will be AWESOME. Let us know if we can do anything to help and/or join in celebrating Mr. Peake, who was lost shockingly young.

    Miss you already, but you knew that, lol.


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  11. Derek Coward on October 16th, 2014 12:51 pm

    I was going to call you a few days ago, but I realized the only thing I wanted to say was hello and I didn’t want to interrupt your day for something so trivial. Now I wish I had.


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  15. Dave Slusher on October 16th, 2014 2:51 pm

    I fully support phone calls just to say hello. If I can’t answer, I won’t and if I need to keep it short I will tell you that right up front. I always appreciate it.


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  17. Dave Slusher on October 16th, 2014 2:53 pm

    Also, I might be bad about returning them. One of my very good friends from high school called me a few weeks ago and I still haven’t called her back.


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